Rules of Attraction

So today, I went over to Lincoln Park to walk around and get a dose of window shopping, and buying a new CD or two at the Best Buy. During this time, in Chicago, there are so many establishments that have an outdoor seating section. People are talking, eating, being seen, and enjoying their time with the Chicago summers. I couldn't help but try to listen into their random conversations as I walked by, and made up stories for all of the people.

During this time, I noticed that many people were rather attractive in this neighborhood. Everywhere I looked, there were attractive people. I almost felt like I didn't belong in this neighborhood or something. As I normally do, this got me thinking as I walked to my bus stop at Fullerton and Halsted. Over and over in my head, I couldn't avoid the question, "What makes someone attractive?" I started to think about this, and started to rationally break things down into subgroups to try to figure out this answer.

For example, if my friends and I were at a bar, and people were to come up to us as a group, I wouldn't be one of those people that people drool over. But yet, what makes someone that? Are people just more lucky and "more attractive?" Are there attractive levels, and thus, do people abide to these levels and if you are a higher level, do you earn the right to be able to dismiss the people "lower" than you? Who determines who is more attractive than who?

It got me to really think that life couldn't possibly be this crule. Then another thought popped in my mind. Is it possible that we are all attractive? Just that some people come accross as being "unattractive" because of they aren't their ideal? Let me explain further. Does everyone have a perfect image? Those people that are unattractive, are they missing perfection? For example, does everyone have a perfect weight? a perfect hair style? a perfect color to wear? a perfect muscle tone? It's just that this is different for everyone, and eveyone needs to figure out what exactly is the perfect look for every individual?

So, here are two theories, 1, everyone is attractive in nature, but people aren't the right weight, hair cut, muscle, clothe style, or theory 2, there are attractive people and unattractive people flat out in the world. With theory 1, my theory, I guess it gives everyone the ability to change, and improve themselves. Some of it might take work, but at least it gives people hope. Of course this is assuming that people who feel unattractive, are those people that feel that there is something "wrong" with them. In theory 2, if you are one of those unattractive people, then I guess your life is doomed, and you need to meet another unattractive person and live unhappily ever after.

On that note, I would never say I am an beautiful, or attractive person. I'd like to say that I am a really good person that could make someone really happy. But in a society where the rules of attraction are so rigid, how does one become transparent enough that your inner beauty becomes more of a focus than your outer look? This is the question in which I shall rest for now, and continue my thought process for another posting. :)